I was never nervous about starting University, which is werid. I wasn’t nervous about living away from home.
The day I left for university I cried in the car, I finally realised that I wasn’t going to have any of my home comforts anymore, I wasn’t going to have my mum, or my bed, or my dog.
For someone with severe social anxiety it’s weird how, when I need to, I can throw myself into terrifying social situations.
When I started uni I didn’t know anybody, but I knew I didn’t want to be alone with no friends, away from home. I found myself confidently going into the communual kitchen to socialise with my flatmates, I found myself agreeing to go to the local club that night.
That night I found I didn’t have a lot in common with these people. I even managed to message my course group chat, which is so petrifying for me, messaging a group of people I’ve never met – but am going to be spending everyday with very soon. A girl replied to me, she came and met me – and three years later we’re still close friends.
This is one of the proudest moments in my life. Being able to overcome my social anxiety to go out and make friends, even when I didn’t have anybody to fall back on. It’s something I had to do – for me. And I’m so glad I did. University would have been so different for me if I hadn’t of thrown myself out there like I did.
Tips for making friends at university:
- Don’t try too hard – if someone is acting like they don’t want to talk to you, go find someone else.
- Join group chats – you should be able to find some to join on your university or accomodation facebook pages. If you’re like me and don’t enjoy messaging group chats; try finding someone in the group and messaging them individually.
- Dont worry – you’ll make so many friends during freshers week, but don’t be upset if you don’t find your new bestfriend straight away, good things come to those who wait.
- Don’t be upset if you only have one or two close friends – sometimes that’s all you need
- Societies – find one you’re interested in and go socialise!!
- Course friends – don’t confine them to juse ‘course’ friends, invite them to hang out outside of lectures and seminars.