Overcoming Sad Days

I often have days where I feel sad. There’s no other way of describing it other than just feeling sad. I don’t particularly want to go outside, talk to anyone, or do anything. I know this is just a massive side effect of my anxiety/depression but it never gets any easier.

Today was a sad day. I didn’t go to my lecture. I didn’t speak to anyone, and all I ate was a Pot Noodle. I cried a lot, but I couldn’t tell you what it was specifically about – just sadness. There are a few things that can make me feel better on days like this.

Reading

For me, there’s nothing that calms me down more than getting lost in a good book. Reading helps me to completely switch off my mind, to forget all the things constantly racing through my brain at 100mph. To become engrossed in an anxiety free world.

Music

I’ve mentioned on this blog before how much music helps me, from the atmosphere of a good gig, or getting lost in a good album. When I put on my headphones, it’s as if i’ve been teleported to a different place, bad thoughts are gone and replaced with good music. When i’m sad it helps to listen to sad songs – a good cry always makes me feel a little better.

researchers found that music releases dopamine, the feel-good chemical in your brain

Mind (Mental Health Charity)

Walking

Long walks, often with headphones in my ears, is always a massive stress reliever. Getting out of the house and clearing my head, observing the world around me, coming up with imaginary scenarios, people watching, fresh air, exercise. It’s not good to surroud yourself with the same four walls. I admit it’s hard for me to do this while i’m at university, i’m very close to London, and as you can imagine there aren’t many scenic walks to go on around here compared to the countryside where I grew up.

Talking

It’s good to talk to somebody about how you’re feeling. I’m lucky I have a supportive network of people around me – some of them don’t fully understand, or know what to say, but they do try and that’s enough. My boyfriend is my ‘rock’, he’s been through similar things and always knows the best things to say, whenever I’m having a sad day I talk to him.

It’s also good to try and talk to someone who’s not directly involved in your life, someone who will be able to give you impartial advice. I feel an idiot giving this advice myself, as I’ve not even been able to- it’s hard to talk about your feelings to a stranger when you struggle to even talk about it with people closest to you.

I’m going to finish with some mental health help lines. Nows a better time than any to talk to someone.

  • ANXIETY UK – Charity providing support if you’ve been diagnosed with an anxiety condition http://www.anxietyuk.org.uk
  • MIND – Promotes the views and needs of people with mental health problems www.mind.org.uk
  • NO PANIC – Voluntary charity offering support for sufferers of panic attacks and obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD) www.nopanic.org.uk
  • PAPYRUS – Young suicide prevention society www.papyrus-uk.org
  • SANE – Emotional support, information and guidance for people affected by mental illness, their families and carers www.sane.org.uk/support

Annesar x


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November Books

I go through phases with reading. I can go 4 months without reading a book, and then read 4 books in two weeks. Whenever I pick up a book after a long time away, I remeber how good for me it is, to get lost in a book and forget about any stress in my everyday life. I’ve read 3 books this month, one ‘self-help’, and then I decided to go explore some thriller books- which is a completely new genre for me. 

reasons to stay alive – matt haig

Wow, wow, wow. This book has made me fully open up about my mental health struggles- i’ve already mentioned it many times on this blog. It inspired me to start really trying to learn how to cope with my anxiety and depression, and also realise no matter how bad things may be now, things can always get better- and that’s what I want to make happen. Every page of this book I was struck by how much I related to what was written, things I didn’t even realise other people thought or did, I thought I was the only one going through some of these things. This may be one of my favourite ever books. Notes on a Nervous Planet is next on my list of Matt Haig books to read, and I’ve heard it’s just as good.

The woman in the window – a.j finn

I gave this book four stars on goodreads. I loved it. Unlike a lot of novels I couldn’t predict what was going to happen, I loved the thrill. I was on the edge of my seat for the entire time. The main character made me feel a bit uneasy at times, an agoraphobe and an alcoholic, but for some reason this kept making me think about my own mental health, I related a lot to the ‘agoraphobe’ part of the character- and this frightened me. Maybe I am also agoraphobic, but I suppose that’s for antoher time. Overall, this book was amazing, I read it all in two sittings, I didn’t want it to end. A.J Finn is now definitly on my list of favourtie authors, I cant wait to see what he comes up with next.

the woman in cabin 10 – ruth ware

I thought this book was incredible- I’d seen mixed reviews online, but I decdied to give it a go anyway. I had no idea what was going to happen, I was left guessing the entire time. It was a really fun and exciting read. Although I feel as though the ending was a tad rushed after such a long build up. I’m definitely going to be checking out more of Ruth Ware.

Annesar x